Daddys, Daughters and Divorce (3Ds)

Some of you know that my daughter maintains her own blog (like daddy, like daughter) called Katt@Blogger. Yesterday she wrote a piece that really touched me, or rather hit me like a tank running through a brick wall. Here’s the general thesis: being the child of divorced parents sucks! She’s actually a much more talented writer than that quote may reveal. Heck, she’s a much better write than I am. So check out her post and then come back and hit the link below to read my response.

Katherine wrote the piece because we are coming to the end of our daddy/daughter week. It is always hard for both of us, but ultimately I know it is always harder for her and her blog post painfully reinforced that fact. I left a comment in response and I thought I would share it here:

It’s not any easier for the parent. Trust me. I too cry when I have to leave your and/or your brother. It has not been easy and is not a situation I would recommend to anyone. Parents take note: divorces and broken families stink. It may sound easy to opt out of a relationship, but strongly consider the impact your future will have on your children. As Katherine has suggested above, "it sucks" for the child. I don't care how "mature" or "put together" you think they are. 

On the other hand, I can attest I have the best daughter in the world and when we do get just daddy/daughter time, it is wonderful! You have grown into a beautiful woman with talents that far exceed my own. Watching you grow and mature is exciting and scary at the same time. I only hope you can break the chain of divorce that has plagued our family.

This blog post is not a response as much as it is an emotional outlet for me. I stand by my comments and would once again send a plea to parents considering divorce. Work thought it. I don't care what the issue. Don’t be selfish. Make a change that will change your children’s lives. And know wherefore I speak regarding this divorce thing and as my daughter has so eloquently put it, it sucks!